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01 November 2005 @ 02:08 am
 
As I've said before, wearing a short skirt is a horrible idea for a Hallowe'en night. Goddamn if I'm stupid enough to disobey my own pre-set rules just because I was demanded to. So yeah.

Anyway. Steph was assaulted. Kind of. I don't know if what happened was grounds for assault but it was pretty damned terrifying. I was over at UWP, since I'd walked there after my (terrible) exam as that was where Florence had said we'd meet up, despite the fact that I knew the boys were studying. Well she certainly wasn't there, and they were studying so I felt horrible for being there and bothering them. Eventually she showed up and began complaining... just.. yeah there was a lot of complaining to be had this night.

This led to us deciding to leave. So we were leaving. And realized it was pouring outside. So since Florence didn't want to slog through the rain across campus back to our residences, we went back up. She almost called Cherry over, which I was rather against since night + girl = bad, and yeah she didn't end up coming, but it was decided upon it was high time to leave. And by that time I was getting sick of being yelled at and feeling bad about being a nuisance. So we didn't end up waiting for Laurence, which was my whole idea in the first place, and just walked. Two girls in short skirts at 1 in the morning is not a fucking good idea. I said as much. But anyway, UW campus is safe enough I figured we'd only get a few cars honking at us and maybe some lewd comments. I can handle those. And we did, but they aren't important in the least.

Basically what happened was that Florence went off to her res through the V1 caf. I had to walk a little ways longer... not hardly a lot, so I speedwalked through. There were a few people still out, near the V1 caf entrance, so when I figured "okay, just keep going". And then when I'm almost through the closed-in area of V1, two guys walk in and up to me.

They said a bunch of stuff and were laughing so I tried to ignore them and walk past. But then one of them grabbed me by the shirt (by Ronsen's shirt in fact, I'd borrowed it to try and avoid just this kind of trouble--obviously it wasn't enough) and then he grabbed my breast. I'm still trying to figure out if I'm going to bruise, he grabbed so hard. But the two of them were laughing at me, and then I jerked away and I kicked him as hard as I could. And he let go and kind of... crumpled on the ground. His friend was still laughing but I was terrified that he would come running after me too so I just ran for home as fast as I could. I hit the stairs of MKV before I turned back and there was no one following me so I slowed down enough and... yeah. But oh god there were PEOPLE there... I thought I'd yelled loud enough that someone heard. But I don't think anyone did. Gahh.

So yeah. Maybe not assault, but I was fucking scared. And I have to walk through there again tomorrow night after Econ. And I'll be getting my exam mark back in that class too. Oh god I don't want to go. And now I can't stop crying, no matter how hard I pretend otherwise. This has been a terrible night.
 
 
 
NemKess: Stop Gun Violence by Sel-kaasannemkess on November 1st, 2005 08:52 am (UTC)

>_> If I were there, I'd probably be in jail for manslaughter right now. I hope he feels that kick for a good long time, damned asshole.

*hugglescuddlessnuggles*

Yeah, I'd count that as assault, though I'm just glad it wasn't any worse.
Stephanie: ayuhatmirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 07:16 pm (UTC)
*huddles* I hope he does too.

I'm just glad I didn't trip and fall... my shoeware was not made for headlong dashing across grass and mud and crumbling asphalt.
Nananinanani on November 1st, 2005 10:28 am (UTC)
Oh god. Good job kicking him and running!
I think it counts as assualt, or at least some kind of crime. You should report it to campus police, at the very least.

Are there any alternate routes you can take? Other (big and strong) people you can walk with? Don't put yourself at risk again! >
Stephanie: jesus     unknownmirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 07:32 pm (UTC)
There are, I'll just have to think about taking them instead. One goes through V1. Indoors walking should be a bit safer than outdoors in the dark I guess. I'll go that way tonight.
Sarah: myv // schoolin'starbuck on November 1st, 2005 02:39 pm (UTC)
Steph honey, there isn't a universe where that doesn't count as assault. And your campus police needs to hear about it too. The reason crime statistics might seem low is because women don't report things like that because they somehow don't see them as wrong as they are (or they blame themselves for dressing a certain way). The fact that you may have a bruise, were scared enough to fight back and run tells you that it is not a simple or casual thing, and infact a very serious matter.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 07:11 pm (UTC)
But I don't know how to report it. I don't really know what I can say about it. I thoguht you needed at least some description of their faces or something like that. I can't really say much more besides "they were short, asian and had dark hair".

I go to Waterloo. That makes up 3/4 of the population. ._.
Nananinanani on November 1st, 2005 07:20 pm (UTC)
Report where and when it happened. AT the very least maybe they can get security methods set up there, like better lighting or a help phone or just have campus security patrol once in a while. Report it, it makes a difference.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 08:12 pm (UTC)
Okay. I can do that. *starts digging around for somewhere to call*
Sarahstarbuck on November 1st, 2005 11:13 pm (UTC)
Yeah, you just need to tell the school it happened, they wont be able to track the people down, but they need to know its going on
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 11:14 pm (UTC)
All right, so I called campus police, and you know what they tell me?

"We'll see about looking into it."

Fuckers.
Sarahstarbuck on November 2nd, 2005 01:44 am (UTC)
It's the effort that really matters, they wont catch anyone or get anyone into trouble because they have nothing to go on, but all universities are required to keep violence statistics so its important to let them know.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 2nd, 2005 03:24 am (UTC)
I suppose but it still makes me grumble, that they have to think about doing something.
Ryugoryu482 on November 1st, 2005 05:42 pm (UTC)
Definitely assault and not to mention sexual harrassment, regular harrassment and probably others that I don't know. You need to report this. *hugs you* Oh man, that is horrible, glad you kicked that asshole though, he deserves worse too.

I'm upset for you, but glad that you weren't in more danger than that.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 07:06 pm (UTC)
I don't know how to report it. Nor would I know what to say. I couldn't even get a good look at the guys' faces.

At the very least the one guy's fertility is in question now... I may not have a lot to say about my legs but they're freaking muscular and I do pack a really hard kick when I need to.
Iriaca: icon-hydehungryfaded_poetry on November 1st, 2005 06:55 pm (UTC)
it is definately harrasment.
i can't imagine something that horrid.
*holds you*
i'm glad you got away though.
*snuggles you*
Stephanie: ayuhatmirroredsakura on November 1st, 2005 07:33 pm (UTC)
I may be talking to you right now but: thank you.
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Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 2nd, 2005 03:22 am (UTC)
Jerks. Horrible jerks. I want nothing to do with them ever again. ._.

Honestly, I report an assault and they tell me "Well we'll see about looking into it."

They'll... just... sit there and think about looking into it?

Comforting, very comforting.
myriadofcolour on November 2nd, 2005 09:12 pm (UTC)
Oh my goodness >_< Steph! I'm so sorry to hear that. Wow, *hugs* are you okay? I wish my MSN worked... Just make sure you walk in groups. You should be proud of how you handled it, you did really well. Damn campus police, hopefully they'll do their job. I can't believe they responded that way. You have to come see me and Sarah this weekend.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 2nd, 2005 09:25 pm (UTC)
I shall try my damndest to. It's one of my only free weekends--I have to! *nuzzles*
Wittsushidestroyer on November 4th, 2005 01:37 am (UTC)
666
I am in love with you
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 4th, 2005 03:51 am (UTC)
Re: 666
I want you to have my children.
aylengyraylengyr on November 4th, 2005 07:00 pm (UTC)
ok this is a bad thing. you know reading things like this always makes me mad. are you ok? I know things like this cause a lot of emotional trauma. more than people usually let on. *hugs* I wish I could come and help you out with it. I know the only thing that helps guys like that is an attitude adjustment usually delivered at the end of a metal baseball bat. Ive had the joy of delivering these before to men at my old school, youd be suprised how they come around after they recover. *is very mad about it*
anyway I knew reporting it to the stupid *censored* cops would be useless. cops are always useless. they never do anything.
*lovelove*
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 5th, 2005 01:48 am (UTC)
It... scared me. A lot. Really shook me up 'cause it kind of hits you hard when you realize somewhere where you thought was safe enough... isn't. ^_^; *is crappy at putting into words*
aylengyraylengyr on November 5th, 2005 06:59 am (UTC)
*hugs* Im sorry that happened to you, I wish I could give you a real hug but alas ye are too far away, Its sad and depressing to me that people like that exist and I really wish I could beat them into a coma for you. They deserve it.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 5th, 2005 08:33 am (UTC)
*nuzzles* Thank you.
イッサンmiya_fangirl on November 5th, 2005 01:45 pm (UTC)
Oh shit... yes, that is assault. Eeven here, in Europe, it's not safe to wear a short skirt. Never EVEr walk even 100 meters alone with a mini skirt. I mean, STpeh sweetie, what were you thinking?

I just hope you're not bruising, and that you're alright. I also hope your grade wasnt that bad. Let me know, will you? But thankl God nothing worse happened, youi know. Just take this as a warning for the future, mkay? *hugs you*

Take care of yourself, sweetie.
Stephaniemirroredsakura on November 5th, 2005 09:52 pm (UTC)
*laughs* It's always been rather safe to walk around here in a short skirt. And it wasn't even a miniskirt really, it was a pair of shorts that looked like a skirt.

I didn't bruise much--and he's probably a lot worse off than I am. But yes. Gah. I can just envision me living like a hermit from hereonin! o.o;